How to Get a Girl’s Number

Taking a girl’s phone number is the most important step towards taking a girl out on a date. There is a simple fact that women take much time as compared to men in getting attracted. And if she gets attracted to you she will definitely give you her phone number.

So there is nothing to wonder that getting a phone number is the first priority for men’s. In fact, there is a possibility that after having a great conversation with a girl you do not get her phone number and probably you never want to see her again just because of this.

In this post the basic tips are provided to succeed in getting a girl’s number from her.

How to Approach and Build Attraction in a Girl

Do not use totally lame pickup lines and ask for the number right from the beginning as many of us do. Never start like “hey I like you, can I have your number”, if you use this type of lines it means you don’t have any idea of attraction at all.

There is a simple fact that women take much time as compared to men in getting attracted, because women gets attracted towards those men who are confident, masculine, smart as well as well mannered and for know all these things some thin is needed.

Take Some Time to Get Signals

If a girl gives you signal of her attraction it means she is attracted to you. These signals are of two types conscious and subconscious. Some conscious signals are like compliments, she might say that she likes you or ask for going out.

But most of time there are subconscious signals such as touching, smiling and laughing, leaning towards you to exposing her cleavage and straightening her breasts, touching hairs, and many more. If you don’t find these signals while conversation is going on, you should keep on building attraction for you in her.

Ultimately, if you don't get signals of attraction from her, you can still take a chance and ask for her number, but the best time for this is when you get the signals from her.

Give Her Compliments

Be sure that you don’t do the most common mistake of asking the number right after building attraction. You should show her that you are interested in her and for this you should compliment her before asking her out. Your compliments should be unique like some thing that you told her to do or some thing she does normally.

If you don’t do these, you might surprise the girl and you might get rejection even if she likes you. Your compliments should make her feel that you like her not just because of her looks.

Ask Her Out Instead Of Number

Instead of asking her number simply, you should ask her out because girl’s doesn’t give their number in one go. For this you have to be specific about the plan that, where to go, for what reason, at what time. Try to make her agree for this outing. By doing this you don’t leave any other choice but to exchange the number for further contact.

The last and most important tip- use outing instead of calling it a date, just to make it casual.

What Makes Men Not Loyal?

Men are known to be less loyal then women. Although some women do want or at least agree for casual sex, it's mainly the male side who wants it.

And it's not that men have stronger sex drive - many studies show that there are many women who have stronger sex desire than men. So what is it that makes men look for multiple sexual partners. Or, as Jerry Seinfeld called it - "men hunt and women nest"


The Gay Side

I once thought that it's the male character who's to blame. Men tend to be less emotional and less vulnerable than women - so they also get less emotionally connected to a specific partner.

But what about the gay side? Gay men, by average are much more emotional than hetrosexual men. And yet, the issue of not being loyal is very common among them.

It's very common for gay men to be involved in casual sex, one-night stands, orgies - whatever.

So I concluded it's not the emotional cause.


Is It Biology

The biological reasons seems to be far more persuading, and it goes like this: Women want a stable relationship, because biologically - a woman needs a stable husband to protect her and take care of her while she's pregnant and while she takes care of her babies.


This also explains while women can be so "afraid" of having casual sex - in nature, every sexual activity might result in getting pregnant, and pregnancy without a loyal husband, can result not only in the death of her children, but also in her own death.
By the way, this also explains why being raped is so terrible for women, and why it's often compared to murder.

In today's world, women know that condoms and anti-pregnancy pills exist. However, their biological mechanisms cause them to prefer serious and long-term relationships with men.


Casual Sex Is Still Possible

We're all affected by biological mechanisms in our body and mind. However, as human beings, we are also able to control them.

Many women want and look for casual sex. It make them feel energetic and it their hormones and emotions skyrocket. However, a woman will always have this internal force trying to stop her.

That's why my advice to men is to never be direct about casual sex with women. Don't tell a girl - "let's go to my place and have sex". Instead, be as indirect as possible - If she wants it and if you make her feel horny and attracted, she'll understand your hints.